This issue matters to my community because many women are in abusive relationships and sometimes do not know it. I was married to someone who hoarded assets and was emotionally and verbally abusive towards me. To the public, to the community, he appears to be an upright, upstanding, moral, good husband. However, in the home my husband treated me with disrespect and did not allow anyone to see it. He was a good actor for over 20 years until the day I found some of the hidden assets accidently. More was revealed from that day forward that the financial abuse had been going on for over 20 years. Many women right now are living under these conditions, and are vulnerable and unprotected. I want to share my story so that we can support each other when we finally realize that domestic violence also included gas lighting, in addition to the financial, mental and verbal abuse.
I am glad that within less than a year I was able to bounce back and get through this nightmare with many resources available to me.
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